Blogpost written by Expert Coach: Luke Elijah

All of us have, at some point in our lives, been hurt in some way by others.

This brings up the fear of vulnerability and rejection especially by those we love and care about. As a defensive response to the hurt feelings from these traumatic events and arduous relationships, we can often times push away and shield ourselves from those closest to us for fear of being hurt by them again. Shutting the doors to our heart, burying the pain, and building up protective walls are common and typical “fight or flight” responses for most of us when dealing with our emotional pain.

In the past, I too had built up protective barricades and boundaries around my heart to keep everyone out. I built those impregnable barriers unconsciously as a safeguard and defense mechanism in an effort to feel secure. The idea of dealing with emotions and succumbing to the infinite depths of love seemed frivolous, irrational, and impractical. I even created for myself the false premise and belief that fostering loving and romantic relationships would be a distraction to my career and life ambitions. Even though I felt imperviously sheltered behind my armored walls, I had inadvertently isolated and deprived myself from all of the full and true potentials that life has to offer.

Heart chakra blockages that are created out of fear and as a way of protecting ourselves from being hurt will actually prevent us from giving and receiving the love that is at the very core of our true essence and birthright. A blocked and closed off heart center devoid of positive loving emotions will eventually make us feel fatigued and drained. We will find ourselves acting and being defensive, critical, judgmental, and cynical towards others. We will experience life as tiring, hard, and a constant struggle as others coldly reflect and mirror back to us our own lack of self-love and self-worth.

Continuous escapism and rigid denial of our emotions are simply unsustainable and undesirable in the long term. If we continue to shun and suppress painful feelings and emotions, we will unwittingly block off the abundant flow of universal love into our lives and thus experience stagnation and exhaustion. We simply cannot grow and evolve if we are constantly stuck in our comfort zones and the viscous cycles of self-denial and self-sabotage. Eventually, whatever we have buried and swept under the rug will catch up with us, and blow up in our faces. As such, instead of trying to escape, resist, and run away from the pain, we need to be fully present with it instead. Be there for yourself though times of trials and tribulations, and know that the pendulum swings both ways. Pain and suffering propels and projects us into immense love, joy and bliss which is possible when you open your heart to fully navigating and experiencing the fields of contrasting polarity and duality.

So how does one keep the heart open in response to the daily siege and onslaught of trauma, hurts and pains that life brings? By first being still, breathing deeply and relaxing into the moment. Understand and commiserate that those who have offended us are mostly hurt, emotionally challenged, and lacking love themselves. When others judge us, they are merely projecting their own issues unto us especially if they are accusing us of the very things that they also disown and reject in themselves. As such, all of us need to take responsibility to own our feelings and manage our emotions. Remember that you are always in full control and can choose how you wish to react to the situation. Whenever you feel your heart clamping up out of fear of being hurt and rejected again, make the conscious effort to re-open it and keep it opened.

Visualize and imagine your heart glowing and expanding with the white light and love of the Divine. Feel the presence of Spirit expanding around you, and empowering your entire being with the energy of love, compassion and empathy. Think or say aloud, “I now choose to fully open up my heart and to keep it wide open. I forgive all involved and choose to encompass the flow of self-love and unconditional love for the highest and greatest good for all according to divine will. It is so, and so it is. Thank you.” Breathe in love, and exhale love throughout your entire being and expand these loving energies outwards to others. End the prayer with a sense of deep gratitude and appreciation.

When we open our hearts to allow divine love in, we can surmount any obstacles and challenges. Whenever you get swept up in any unwanted agonizing situations or painful emotions, just remember to simply be still and breathe. When we bravely accept and face all of our emotions head on, and allow ourselves to embrace the pain before releasing and letting them all go, the illusionary power of those fears will rapidly evaporate away. The pain will swiftly dissolve and subside within minutes, or even mere seconds.

The greater the storm, the brighter the rainbow. Be brave and strong, and you shall always prevail. It is well worth the effort to forgive, make peace, and flow with unconditional love for self and others. You will feel lighter, happier and freer, and as a result all manners of abundance and prosperity will also materialize effortlessly into your life. Here are some additional simple, useful, and practical tips that you could use to further enhance and convalesce your process of emotional healing and opening up of the heart space.

1) Make use of various crystals such as rose quartz, rhodocrosite, rhondonite, malachite, and green aventurine in your intentions and meditations to heal your heart and attract all kinds of love into your life. Place a clear quartz or Herkimer diamond beside the love crystals to amplify and augment their energies.

2) Diffuse and apply 1-2 drops of certified pure therapeutic essential grade oils of rose, geranium and jasmine to your heart center. Close your eyes and inhale the volatile floral essential oils deeply while visualizing a white, pink or green light surrounding your entire being, and then radiate this light outwards.

3) Use your faith and call upon your angelic guides and the ascended masters for their loving assistance and support; especially Kuan Yin, the bodhisattva of love and compassion, as well as the twin flame couplings of Lord Jesus Christ/ Mary Magdalene, and Saint Germain/ Lady Portia.